I’m feeling much better about my life. Two big things happened and now I’m in a pretty good mood!
1) I had a really good time with my friend Autumn. Two days ago, her and Coby and I went to a park. He practiced lacrosse while I taught her how to play tennis. Later he came over and we played tennis against each other, but instead of a racket he used his lacrosse stick. Then Autumn and I went exploring in this pretty little stream and woods behind the park, and then played on the playground swinging on the swings. We had so much fun that Autumn and I went back to the park with some of our other friends and played volleyball (this time Coby didn’t come with us). I was surprised how much I didn’t care that Coby wasn’t there! After the park, Autumn and I had a great time gossiping and sharing secrets, bonding the ways that girls do. We ate some cheesecake because it was her birthday. We’re going out this weekend to celebrate. I had such a good time with her, and afterwards we kept texting (wow spellchecker is telling me that “texting” isn’t a word). Anyways, she told me how she met some guy on Tinder and how he invited her to go to a boat party, and that she almost said yes. I made fun of her for being into pirates. I tweeted part of our conversation and got 4 favorites! I feel so popular. Then she tweeted “I may have texted @CaitieMaz more than I’ve ever texted any boy. Sole mates who wear the same shoe size.” This was such an awesome feeling. It’s not quite the same intense exhilaration of kissing a guy for the first time, but it also doesn’t come with that sinking knowledge that the feeling is ephemeral. It’s the steady happiness of knowing that I’ve made a new friend.
2) I found out that Coby doesn’t hate me. I talked to his friend about the whole situation. Basically he really likes me, it’s just he doesn’t know where to go from there. We only have a week left in this program before we’ll probably never see each other again. I’m just getting out of a long term relationship, and for my sake he doesn’t want to do anything or start anything that I might regret later. Also neither one of us really “hook up” with people, but we also definitely don’t want to date, so what else is there? Personally I’d love a good snuggle/make-out session or two before we part our separate ways, but I’m not sure how he feels about it. Bottom line is that all the weirdness has nothing to do with me and everything to do with the tricky situation at hand. His way of dealing with the strange circumstances is to ignore me and avoid it all. I don’t even know what I want with the whole thing, so I can’t really blame him for being confused. Basically all this stress and strangeness isn’t really worth it after all. My roommate is going away this weekend so mabey I’ll invite him over for a cuddle session. If he says yes, then awesome. If he says no, then fine that’s cool I’m not gonna stress over it.
I’m happy all this is happening, because it’s showing me that boys really aren’t worth all this nonsense. All of my worrying and over-analyzing and misery for what – a single make-out session? It’s totally not worth it. (And mabey I’m being naive for just wanting a make-out session. Most guys would want to go all the way, which I’m totally NOT cool with, and then all the stress is for a make-out session followed by a really awkward moment where I push him away and leave…) Anyways, I’m in a good mood today and I’m gonna do my best to keep it this way 🙂
College is about finding the bridesmaids, not the groom.